The idea for this post came to me this afternoon. I spent the morning on the phone and Skype with two of my dear go-to Mama friends Lisa and Alyson. We enjoyed talking about the up's and down's of being new mothers and how much we love our boys! Thank you girls for a much needed chat today. :)
|Here is Miss Lisa with her sweet little boy Brayden.|
I met Lisa while our husbands were stationed together in Florida,. We were neighbors and I wish we were still neighbors now!
|Here is Miss Alyson with her adorable little family. We also were neighbors in Florida with Miss Lisa!|
I thank the Lord for blessing me with the friendship of these two gals.
As Christian women, shouldn't we up-lift our fellow sisters in Christ and help them blossom and grow as mothers? It is normal to share with other mom's what your children are doing and how they are progressing for their age. However, it becomes un-healthy when we start comparing in a jealous manner. In Galatians 6:4 The Bible gives excellent wisdom ;
"Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else."
Haven't we had enough of the "Mommy Wars" ? It is time to hang-up those gloves ladies and start pulling together for the future of our children!
I recently stumbled upon this article from Justmommies.com. The article features;
5 tips and tricks to avoid The Mommy Wars
Whether there’s a paycheck at the end of the week or not, most moms want more friends, and wish to reach out to others. For mothers who want to move beyond the Mommy Wars, how are five tips for living positively and making life easier for all moms.
Be confident in your own life. We each take our individual paths, make decisions, and roll with the punches. Believe in yourself. If you’re satisfied with life at home, don’t be bothered by anyone’s comments. If you love work, express that. Feel good.
Resist the urge to criticize. . It’s so easy to take out our own frustrations on other women. Resist that urge, and take the high road instead. Focus on your vision of life and how to achieve it; let others live their lives. If you are unhappy with your life, take positive steps to make the changes you need.
Cultivate empathy. No matter what we do, moms these days deal with super high standards that no one can meet. Many moms feel pressured to be the “perfect mom.” Look behind this facade. Find the humanity in the other moms in your circle, and together, learn to support each other as women and as parents.
Mothers are constantly faced with mom-negative TV commercials, by mom-critical articles in our newspapers, magazines, and by the publicity around new and ever more extreme Mommy Wars books. Don’t take the bait. Some media push the Mommy Wars in order to raise our hackles—and as a result, get us to read their magazines, tell others about it, or click on their websites. These are best ignored.
Last, and the favorite by far: call a mom’s night out—for everyone. Facing some tensions at the elementary school PTA? Frustrated that you’re not in-the-know at the preschool? Pull out your phone list and invite five moms—whether they’re working for pay or home with the kids—to go out one evening after the kids are in bed. Invite moms you don’t know, and be ready to make some new friends.
After all, getting to know other women is the number one best antidote to the Mommy Wars. "
And finally, here is my own little quote;
"Don't be the "Mean Girls" of Mommyland, instead offer a helping hand!" :)